Sunday, 17 June 2012
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Being a Father of a Child with Autism
Do you see the grin? He smiled.
It's moments like this where we stare at the camera and the screen showing our faces when it dawn's on me.... I'm the Dad.
I used to be jealous and envious of other dad's, especially when I'd see pictures and video's of their kids - some pitching no hitter's in their little league games.
Anger would rise out of me because of all the dreams and vision I had of being a father would be lost.... for awhile...
Where would I get that opportunity with my son? Why can't I have the same opportunities as other Dad's?
When will we go camping? What about when he get's friends... when will I have the opportunity to be the cool dad... the goofy dad... the annoying dad?
But I see moments more often now.... that moment of connection between a father and a son, then I realize that being a dad is not about little league...
... it's not about going camping...
... it's not about having those selfish moments to be goofy or annoying.
It's about just being there for him. Having fun in the moment when you can.
The picture taken was while we were waiting in the drive through. I pulled out my phone and set the camera to view both of us.
We watched the screen and I said, "Smile"
He did.
That's all that matters in the end.
Happy Father's Day.
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I think you nailed it. And for the record, for every time you see a kid at a baseball game, either in the field or in the stands, you've missed the time when they've had to be dragged out of there kicking and screaming, you've missed the argument at home where they screamed "I hate you!". Everything looks fantastic, the grass always looks greener, and sadly most parents feel a huge amount of pressure to put up this front like "yea we're like this all the time." Can you imagine if someone walked by your car with their child at the time you took that picture? "Wow, look at that dad. He and his kid are having an awesome time together. I wish I could have those times with my child."
This really touched my heart. Thank your for sharing! Your son is very blessed to have you, as I have no doubt you feel you are blessed to have him for your son as well.
Joel,
I am late to reply, but this post was beautiful. Our children should be our focus, and we do not miss out one thing because of this. Sometimes outsiders state that having a child with autism would be to much, but what they must realize that it is quite the opposite, these children are a joy not a chore.You are a great dad, and one day he will read this and understand all that you have and will continue to do that will impact his entire life.
CM.
Am loving the posts on here, how much effort has it taken you to make this blog, its really easy on the user and a credit to you.