Hi everyone! I'm new here - I do not have Autism. However, I know two beautiful young people, a young man and a young woman, who -to my completely untrained eye- appear to have roughly equal symptoms of [diagnosed] Asperger Syndrome.
I want to get these guys together (match-make)! Both are really great kids and I can SOOO picture them together! Really! Is this a bad idea? Good idea? Why? Any suggestions for a low-key blind date? Your advice / opinions would be greatly appreciated! The last thing i want to do is embarrass anyone or set them up for some kind of emotional disappointment. Thanks!
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My son is diagnosed AS, my husband and I aren't but now I have lived though my son's expereince and know about AS I think my son has got it from us.
Married 12 years, fight like hell with hubby but walk away and the next minute we have both forgotten our quarrel. We just fight based mostly on logic. In the end we both know that no one else fills our needs even to argue because we learn something in auguring.
From my experience it could never work with a NT. You both have too much passion for perfection and need someone to be a little crazy to make it work. Someone that understands your passion and quirks or just forgives or ignores your quirks without question.
So yes, I think it's a good thing if they both have AS to try to match-make.
How you do that? Well it takes a mountain for both my hubby and I to go out. It is usually an event that we can not get out of going. Not a blind date, that won't work or even happen. Try a dinner party or even a birthday party. Something that brings people together without focus on the couple.
Another option is to organize a coffee date with each of them but you remain present without word of your intention to them.
Don't set them up it won't work, you have to make it their idea.
Good luck in your venture, hope it works out as planned.
So....you want to set them up on a date just because they both have Aspergers?
No. Just, no. It's not your place to play matchmaker, and it's pretty shitty to even try with such a limited set of reasons. "Oh, they have Aspergers and they look adorable together!" Please. Introduce them to each other, sure. Anything more than that should be left up to them, and them alone.
Totally agree with Chronic. Just cause people have matched idiosyncracies you don't place them together. It's when they have similar INTERESTS that makes for an interesting person sometimes. Or as my G/F tells me, it's the DIFFERENCES that keep us together.
There's definitely new ways of looking at relationships, just placing them together cause you think they share the same perspective - that is no. And no, Asperger's and Autism do not necessarily share the same intellectual processes. We are all unique and all different in our thinking despite considered handicaps. Φ ≡