Wednesday, 25 January 2012
I met my boyfriend a few months ago through a friend at my University. I noticed strange behavior from him from day one but thought nothing of it. Now that he has moved away, I'm starting to question whether he is Autistic or not.When I was introduced to him, he did not converse much, it was me who did most the talking but throughout the night I caught him staring at me often. He would blush and smile, either look away or say 'Hi, there.' This behavior intrigued me as he still continues to do this today, he could be in the middle of the sentence and he will just stop talking and stare at me for a bit before casually saying 'Hi beautiful, how are you?' When I had him meet my friends he did not speak or show interest in speaking unless he was personally addressed.When he was still living here, I visited his apartment numerous times. I learned that his clothing are ordered by colors and style. He keeps everything neat except for the table he studies on. His sleeping pattern is something I cannot understand. Sometimes he will sleep 3 hours at night then nap for 5 during the afternoon. Other times he will sleep the full night but still feel the urge to nap through the day. When we are in public he acts mature and conservative but when I'm alone with him he acts like a little kid, throwing fits and pounding on his pillow, shrieking, screaming and then finally puts his head down before looking back at me with a little kid smile.He recently had to leave back to the states because he was not doing well in his courses and he is unsure of what he wants to pursue. I know he most passionate about fine arts and photography but every time I try to discuss his future he cuts me off by saying he is already stressed and doesn't want to think about it.I'm getting really worried about him because he has absolutely nothing to do back home but stay home and play video games, this extra time is causing his depression to worsen and I feel him slipping from me day by day. He is terrible at communicating his emotions and will not tell me what he is thinking or feeling. Communication is important to me as it will tell me how to help him. I feel absolutely useless because I can do nothing for him. If my boyfriend is autistic, what can I do to help him? I'm torn over his lack of interest in me these days but at the same time I know he feels lonely back home and needs someone to always comfort him.
What could I possibly do?