Saturday, 11 June 2011

  • AspieAffection.com

     

    I remember back when I was trying to write that Sex and Aspergers blog, I was also looking for dating sites that had to do with people with Autism. I was told that sometimes, dating online can be pretty good for them, and it sparked my interest that there was sites specifically for different types of people, including those with various disabilities. Being the curious Joe that I am, I started Yahooing and Googling sites. Back then, all I found was some blogs having to do with sex and dating for those with Aspergers. If I wanted to find love via internet, I had to join OKCupid like everyone else.

    Who knew that the last place I had to look was in a movie forum for IMDb.com?

    It all started when I was looking up information on Mozart and The Whale, a movie that is about two people with Aspergers who met at an Aspie group and wound up in a back and forth relationship with each other. On IMDb.com, there was a man who asked about luck finding love as easily as they did. There, somebody gave everyone, including him, a site that is named AspieAffection.com. I was curious as to what that was, so I went there, only to find it is almost like OKCupid for those with a form of autism or those with Aspergers. Needless to say, for a guy who is looking for local love, I never really felt happier about knowing that there really was a dating/friendship site just for us.

    I signed in, gave myself a page, and found only a small few of the dating Aspies are in Massachusetts (like 7?). That doesn't mean that is all there is, but that was the amount that popped up for people who knew about dating with Aspergers. So, I thought it was time for me to introduce the site to anyone who might have Aspergers, is on the spectrum, or has a thing for those with Aspergers, and is currently on the prowl for love.


    Meanwhile, I'm going to see if there is any more sites that are made for us, so I can offer them to you...does anyone know of any?

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  • bluejacky@xanga

    I think it's awesome you made this post, because part of avoiding sensory overload is having an SO who is patient and willing to learn how to touch skin without setting off all kinds of adverse reactions.  This IS possible, but I've always wondered if it would be even better if my husband had the sensory problems and awareness himself...?  Plus all the other built in social interaction differences.  For some of us, sites like www.asexuality.org help a lot, too.  Not everyone with a social deficit wants to hook up physically, but still craves emotional balance with a significant other who feels the same way.  I was the kind of kid who no one could touch, I'm the kind of adult who can't cuddle, actually still got married to an awesome guy who doesn't hold it against me, but it really helped when I finally realized maybe I'm not geared to the usual cultural norm for 'luv'.  Doesn't mean I don't like a good roll in the hay, but I never could get past not trusting people enough to be touched without a lot of alcohol first, till I met my husband.  The best part is knowing I don't have to act a part just to keep an SO around, I can be myself.
  • Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga

    Thanks for the site.  I'll have to check it out more.  Keep in mind though that just because someone you're interested in also has autism/aspergers doesn't necessarily mean that he/she is a perfect match.  In fact, the exact opposite could be true.  While you may find someone you could connect with well, this person could also have a lot of severe mood swings and emotional problems that could just get on your nerves.  If anything, I see two people with aspergers annoying the hell out of each other just based on my experience alone.  What I'm trying to say is don't limit yourself.  As far as dating sites go, OkCupid is pretty damn good.  I've used dating sites in the past that made you pay at least $90/year just to use essential features that OkCupid lets you use for free.  Plus, there seems to be a lot more intelligent and diverse people on OkCupid; not just rejects from past relationships that no one wants to date.  As far as other sites go, I haven't used match.com much but it seems pretty decent.  There's another dating site called Geek2Geek, which may be more towards what you're looking for.  Whatever you do, good luck to you!
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