Saturday, 28 May 2011
It would be great if someone could give me some great advice on this issue. My three year old daughter is developmentally behind. She has not been diagnosed with anything yet. She goes to speech therapy, O.T, special education therapy, and adaptive P.E. therapy. She shows some signs of autism, but the signs she shows could just be because she is behind. Her therapists said I could have her tested, but that for right now they don't see a real need for it. After all the signs she shows could just be from her being behind. Now here comes the fun part...
I have a very obsessed mother-in-law. My daughter, who is the oldest of my kids (I have a two year old and a 9 month old), is by far her favorite. She gives my daughter special treatment and spoils her rotten. I know this is what grandmothers are known for, but it goes beyond that. She doesn't respect me as an adult or parent and basically tosses whatever I say aside and does what she thinks is best. For example, for a few months we lived with them and every night after we went to sleep she would take my daughter out of the crib and put her in her and her husband's bed. Their reason: the crib was in the living room and they were afraid someone would kidnap her. But now she doesn't like to sleep alone, and that's a problem. At first they dismissed the idea of her having some kind of disorder, but then all of a sudden they decided that not only is it a possibility...but yes, she has autism. So they did research and started telling me to put her on a certain diet, and once we moved out they would constantly ask if we were getting her "special diet" food. If we didn't they would start a big fuss and say we were starving her. I've done research myself and I understand what they're saying but here's the thing: SHE'S NOT DIAGNOSED WITH ANYTHING. They can't seem to get that through their heads. And now they've heard about this oxygen chamber therapy that is supposed to help children with significant cases of autism. (Doctors have told me that even if my daughter is diagnosed with autism it would be a very slight form.) Now they are constantly telling my husband and me that my daughter needs this therapy and we are denying her treatment if we don't do it. Keep in mind, she hasn't been diagnosed with anything. I'm getting tired of fighting with them over this. This procedure is still being researched, and I'm not comfortable with putting my daughter through something if she really doesn't need it.
Has anyone heard or tried this oxygen chamber treatment? Should I look into it or wait to see if she is even diagnosed with anything? Any advice on dealing with the in-laws?