I could have written this... :) I am very much in the same boat, but I've kinda learned for the most part not to take it personally. People get upset over situations and situations can be remedied. Granted there are some people whom I will never understand nor will I be able to relate to on any level, and the way I've found to deal with them is to leave them alone. Unfortunately, that meant quitting my job in rather spectacular fashion last week. With this one manager, EVERYTHING was personal, even if it was something I had nothing to do with... when I pointed this out, she yelled at me about my attitude. So, when she pretty much yelled in my face to "use common sense" that kinda made me snap. I tore off my name tag, said, "I don't have to take this," and stormed out the door. This manager was blaming me all day for things that I had nothing to do with, no control over, or otherwise requiring me to do two diametrically opposed things at the same time. 

Wow, I experience everything you wrote. I feel the same way about 'normals', unfortunately, the games have made me a bit bitter and introverted over time. That's kinda how I wound up here, reading this post!

directness like yours is helpful in a relationship, as a person won't always know why you're upset.   however, the idea behind knowing why you upset someone without them telling you isn't about being a mind reader.   it's about knowing someone well enough to know beforehand that what you're thinking about doing will bother them and then not doing it so that the whole situation is avoided.   for NT's they can evaluate the person's emotions all the way through the encounter and pinpoint what they did and why it was upsetting to the other person.   to an NT, not being able to do this means you don't know them well enough.  of course, some people do take it way to far and expect perfection from others.   it's all about balance =)

I'm NT who desires to be a normie. It makes me sad. :[ 

@jenessa1889@xanga - I get what your saying exactly! I think I am an NT though because what Jenessa says is true...It's about knowing how someone will react and taking that into consideration before you do something...but I love the way honesty is completely pure for a lot of Autistic people.

I wish it was the same in the NT world...but your not alone in feeling what you feel, that is the human condition, figuring out how to be there for another human being by trusting and responding to what they need...emotionally, mentally, and physically. It takes practice but by knowing why and how to explain your feelings it will help you convey what your trying to say or figure out much easily. It is an amazing and beautiful ability that will help you in any social interaction. (but you already know that, so congrats ^_^ )

P.S. half truths, white lies, and exaggerating stories ect...Are still lies regardless of what or how society feels about some of them- so don't you dare feel like you need to pick that up, because honestly, your better off just being true to your words. Your awesome just the way you are! :)

Wow, I did not expect this response. Thank you. 

@steph - At least yours had the decency to pull you into the office. The manager at my store would simply yell at me, in a tone you might use with a dog that just peed on the floor, in front of the entire store. Every shift I worked with her, she would do this. That last time, I was just so horribly embarrassed that I said to the customer, who had witnessed the whole thing, "If I get yelled at one more time for something that was not my fault, I am going to quit." The manager heard me, turned back around and started back in on me. That's when I quit. Unless I firstmake it clear that I'm just teasing or venting, if I say I'm going to do something in an "IF/THEN" type statement, you can pretty much bet that if the "IF" happens, the "THEN" will shortly follow. 

Coulda been written by me. Minus the husband part. I shall send you a friend request now.