A continuation of the great travelling tips from Lisa.
Tales from the World of Extreme Parenting - H is for Holidays!Part 2.
Part 1 is
here.
4. At the Airport Check In, Security and when Boarding: Bring your Brass neck!
What I mean is, don’t be shy in coming forward when it comes to telling people you have a child with special needs. We get there early, but approach a member of Airport staff and tell them that the kids “don’t do queuing” and they generally help us through.
It helps if you have an
Autism ID card, as it can be hard to explain to someone that these beautiful children have special and very challenging needs.
But remember Autism comes from the Latin, so you will be understood in Spanish, French and Italian.*
Remember, the airport staff would rather facilitate you than face the risk of a meltdown, so please have a thick neck and ask for help. You will be better off asking the Airport staff for help, rather than check in staff, especially if you are flying a "cheap fares" airline.
Better still, don’t fly with cheap fares airlines. Go with someone who offers
pre-flight seat allocation so you can choose seats that will suit your family,
Before you travel. These airlines are for singles and couples, NOT FAMILIES!
It is supposed to be a HOLIDAY, so spend a few extra euro and avoid nightmares.
Online check-in is also a fantastic idea. Less queuing. Happier kids.
When it comes to security, please be considerate of other travelers and have all your gear packed into the recommended sized bags. Ask your partner to empty pockets of coins and crap before you approach the security queues. Approach the staff and explain your situation and offer to remove shoes etc without being asked.
I send Mr Hammie through the metal detector first then each child whom he catches and I go last after stacking everything on the security belt. Open bags and remove laptops and liquids etc in the regulation see through bags as requested. Be cooperative and grateful for the help and thank everyone afterwards.
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In Ireland the Airport Authorities understand Autism and will give you the help you need, where you need it. In some other countries we've found ourselves brought through to the front of the queue, only to wait for 30 minutes with the other patient but mobility impaired folks on the flight. Sometimes it is better to make yourself known to the desk check in staff, then go off to walk around with the kids until the flight is actually called, rather than queue too early. 5. Bring an activity to entertain them at the airport AND on the plane.Laptops, Mini Dvd players and the iPod Touch are manna from heaven for the family on the move. Download a few favourite movies on iTunes before you go so you can rotate the laptop and iPod during transit and while queuing for the plane or hire car.
Your social story should include a treat that will be purchased in the airport. Whether that be a coke, book or Dvd you should honor that and ensure that your child is happy to travel again.
It is important to get to the gate early so the crew can board you ahead of anyone else, so don’t dillydally in the shops for too long. However a lot of walking prior to boarding is a good thing..
When Booking Your Seat Allocation: -
Mark Your Man!If travelling with 2 adults and 2 kids, don't put the kids in the row of three and allow your partner to sit across the aisle. He will ally himself with the other passengers and put on the "Headphones of Invisibility" that block out all sounds of turmoil in the seats across from him while you struggle with the kids alone.
Book 2 on 2 with the Seat Kicker of the family (there's always one) seated behind a family member. Match one parent to one child from the moment you reach the airport and stay on them until your reach your accomodation or home. Transfers must be agreed to by both parties and only in case of emergencies like going to the toilet.
If you can book the back row even better - you will have the kids surrounded!
My best tip is to bring a hard cover copy book, and a some colored pencils. (Markers and pens tend to leak in the pressurized cabin)
The hard cover is for the time before you are allowed to pull the tray table down, which if you are queueing on the runway before takeoff, can be AGES!
Just make up a story with their favourite characters and write it out together while drawing simple pictures.
And finally, don't assume that you have to wait until the fasten
seat belts light has gone off before switching on the Portable DVD players. Usually it is just after the plane levels out and you can hear the flight crew getting out of their seats. Press the buzzer and ask a Flight attendant to be sure, but don't be shy. The sooner you get the entertainment started, the better the flight is for
everybody.
But be sure to incorporate the need to switch
off the entertainment, into your social story.
6. On board food, drink and other stuff.This is really hard with the new restrictions! We have a doctor's letter to explain why Bratty would only drink one brand of apple drink which is not sold at the airport or on the plane. We put a 6 pack in a clear plastic bag with the letter which the Airport Authority advised us to get, and we place it outside the carry-on bag on the security belt.
If you are considering
pre-flight sedatives, get a doctor’s advice as
Phenergan and Valium can have the
opposite effect. And test all
meds at home 1-2 days before the flight.
(Getting a little something to keep your partner calm and happy is also a good idea I find!)
Crisps and things in a packet are still fine for bringing on board. Bring lots of little snacks, but try to limit the additives and sugar content as you do not want a
pukey hyperactive child in a packed aeroplane.
Bring a towel or even better a sarong or shawl to cover up if the child does get
pukey. There are no extras like blankets on cheap flights these days. You can tuck it around the kids to encourage sleepiness or wear it around your waist to cover up all the food stains on your trousers as you disembark.
Also; anti-bacterial hand gel is useful as the toilets can be a bit manky in the airport and on the plane. And Bring Wipes!
Light clothes in layers are the best idea, that you can add on when you are leaving home but remove and put in a bag on the plane and when you get to your destination.
The children will not thank you as they swelter at the baggage carousel in
Malaga in their best “travelling clothes."
Sandals are great as you can get them on and off easily if your feet smell swell. (just don’t wear socks with sandals or you will be stopped by the fashion police)
7. Safety.Make sure the children have I.D, on their person. God forbid they should get away from you, but if they do, be sure they have their name, age, condition and your mobile phone number on their person.
On the advice of a friend I dress Boo in stripes, which are easy to see from a distance. It is so easy to become engrossed in something in a bookshop or at the duty free, only to look up and find they have wandered off. And there is no guarantee that they will be able to tell a stranger their name or yours. Be prepared!
For long journeys I actually use an indelible pen and write my mobile phone number on Boo's arm. I also dress them in World Autism Day or Saplings School for Autism T-shirts. It can actually help with "the Look" that some people give you, and makes strangers a lot more helpful.
(I have yet to find a "Obsteferous when Moved" T-shirt for Mr Hammie
8. Enjoy yourself when you get there!The great thing about holidays in Latin countries is that children are very visible. Spanish children seem to be more indulged and we often find ourselves in the happy situation where the boldest children in the
café are not ours! Seriously, the child lying on the floor having a tantrum outside the supermarket is going to be Someone
Else's!!
If your kids are verbal, teach them to say Hello, Please and Thank you in the local language and prompt them to use it wherever you go. Boo orders his own food in the cafes and kiosks where he thinks all the waiters are called "Gracias". And Gracie can say "Hola" too.
If our break coincides with the local school holidays we sometimes find ourselves surrounded in the pool by Spanish kids who don't realize that Gracie can't talk much and who just want to play.
In the Mediterranean countries I have visited, you will always see parents
with their children. Not just lying on a
sun lounger and glancing up
occasionally but actually in the water splashing about. So, exuberant behaviour in a public place is not so frowned upon. And everyone including people with special needs, gets to enjoy themselves.
Because that really is the main thing. To E.N.J.O.Y. yourself.
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