After being both tested [myself and my husband] and hearing the results, it didn't surprise us either. My husband is PDD-NOS and i am way to sociable to be in the autism spectrum. Yet there is speculations that I may have dyslexia or word-blindness. Both found traces of it in both my English and my Dutch. So I am in the process of being tested for that. Two more days of testing and coming back to learn of the outcome then it'll be known how much I have of it. So I can see if it will be possibly needed to take a special course to help iron the wrinkles in my sentences.
I asked the testing department to make a list of strengths and weaknesses, and at the centre of autism whom did the diagnosing of our son they are as well going to make such a list but then 3 list, one of my husband myself and our son. Then we can asses how to equally balance our family out so that we can insure that are son becomes more self helping instead that we have to continue help him and 2 to help me out to understand my husband better.
I have learned after going through what we did go through last year that I should deploy more 'tasks' to others cause there are so many and I cant do everything.
Are there women who have a child around 11yr with autism and married to a husband who has PDD-NOS? What are the things that you run into which make it difficult and what are the things that make it fun?
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Hee hee... I have an eleven year old son who is somewhere on the spectrum (testing not entirely completed for many reasons)... but rather than being married to someone on the spectrum, I am the one on the spectrum... somewhere... again, testing not completed, though I fit the criteria for Aspergers to a T.
I'd just say to never assume that something cannot be done by either one of them. It might take using a different approach or going about it a different way or a step by step set of written instructions or a whole lot more time, but be patient, keep after it, and have fun with everything. Make it a game, keep it light. The same "trick" may not work twice in a row... so you might have to find a handful of things that work and rotate through them. I'm not sure how to explain this, but it will probably run on a cycle. What works today might not work tomorrow, but it will work next Monday. (Today is Monday, right? LOL)
@keystspf@xanga - thnx for your reply. indeed how you say it , different ways or a step by step... i getting the hang of it slowly but surely... got to get a handel thou on my energy management cause i seem to be using more then i can reproduce. The extra 'challenge' to it all is my mother in law for whom i am her caretaker. Each week her needs grow. But i'm learning to dishout the 'jobs' in house.
like you humour, that what i use to keep my head clear and my spirts up.
gr Gouwerijn
This is fantastic! I have to say.