Monday, 15 March 2010

  • First You Need to Do the Assignment Before You Pursue your Big Dreams

    Highschoolboy is greatly enamored of his film study class. He spends hours picking apart some of the greatest films ever made. He uses terminology and has an understanding of film configuration that I do not comprehend and think I never shall. He is seen as “film boy” at school, which gives him a really good intro into social conversation. The problem for HSB lately is that he thinks the assignments in his film class are kind of “lame.” In fact he just got handed back an assignment which he did in an art house style even though it was just supposed to be a straight forward basic script.  Needless to say, he received a really bad grade, but he has been given the chance to revamp the project to comply with the teacher’s rubric.

    The problem that we have encountered here is that HSB is always reluctant to redo work. In fact one of his major issues in English is that he has trouble editing his own writing. We know he is very capable of understanding how that is to be done. We just received his PSAT scores and he was in the 96th percentile for the country. So lack of Basic English skills is not really his problem. His problem is even more elementary-he thinks he knows everything, pretty much like most teenagers. He thinks that his spin on the script should be acceptable and in fact makes the idea even more interesting than what was assigned. 


    Who knows? He may actually be right about that. HSB does see things that others cannot. However, the problem is that that was not the assignment.  It was supposed to be a two page scene where there is some kind of interaction at home. HSB decided that there are no interactions at home, that no one here talks to each other and therefore, he was just going to create a wordless scene. Now HSB does generally like to sit at the computer when he is not doing work, but he also likes to hang with his dad, fight with his brother and play with the dogs. Me of course, he still has no patience for. However, HSB, being HSB, decided that he wanted to use his alone time at the computer for his interaction scene. Can you see the problem here and why he had to do the assignment over?

    So he writes a screen play with no dialogue. The protagonist is just sitting at the computer. There is no human interaction. Because there is no human interaction, the music HSB chose is a song with no music and no word. Hence since there is nothing going on there is no need for music. Yes, he found a song on the internet with no music and no words. He fully explained his thought process and what the purpose of the scene was in his script. I don’t think the teacher was amused. He only got 50% credit for the assignment.

    Now in trying to explain to HSB how he has to do what is assigned according to the rubric given, his case manager attempted to be gentle because she knows that HSB does not like receiving poor grades. Especially when he thinks he put in a goodly amount of time and effort and did the assignment right in the first place. She explained to him that one day when he wants to make a film for Telluride, Toronto or the Tribeca film festivals, he can create anything he wants to. But for right now he is in high school and has to do the assignment as it is given. He cannot deviate from it and decide he is going to improve the assignment. It doesn’t matter that he thinks he knows better. There is a purpose to the assignment.  If he can’t see the purpose then just do it because he wants to get a good grade in the class. Finally HSB relented and accepted that he had to do the assignment as assigned.

    Is HSB stubborn? To say HSB is stubborn would be a gross understatement. I remember his kindergarten teacher regaling me with a story about a conference she attended. They had to list the attributes that would help someone become a doctor. Then the speaker asked them to imagine that type of personality in a kindergartener. She told me there was an audible gasp from the audience of teachers.  She related this story to me, because HSB was giving her a run for her money. HSB has never changed. He has always been stubborn, highly intelligent and in need of going beyond what the class does. He sees things in every subject that others do not and for the life of him cannot figure out what is wrong with the others that they cannot keep up.

    He sees no purpose in the mundane and the uneventful. He seeks to expand his horizons with everything that he does and go beyond the limits set out by society. HSB thinks outside the box. Unfortunately for him he needs to stay inside the box just a little bit longer. Well, at least for another few years, until he can get the basics out of the way.  In the meantime we will help him understand that there is a purpose to the mundane. That sometimes you need to go slow in life; that there is a process to learning. We will try to teach him that just because he can see the reason and meaning behind a wordless and music less song that not everyone else can and that there is a place on this Earth for both him and them.

     

    Until next time,

     

    Elise


Comments (8)

  • Springingtiger

    Wow! Tricky balancing creativity with compliance. Sounds like he's intelligent enough to to grasp the need. Perhaps compliance could be re-framed as an act of rebellion - sneakily getting to do what you want by having them think you are doing what they want while you set them up.

  • keystspf@xanga

    It's the trouble of thinking from the outside back into the box. The box doesn't make sense until we understand the context of the box. What's outside the box matters... exploring that is more interesting than the box until we've discovered that the box is there for a reason and actually contains MOST of the stuff we need in order to actually function within society.  LOL


    It is much easier as an adult now to grasp the fact that the box is a "necessary evil". I'm having a tough time just doing the assignment for school too, but thankfully... at 30ish... I'm mature enough to accept it and do it the way it was assigned. There's still trouble. I had a tough time wrapping my head around the communications aspect of an assignment when the subject was politics. When the political system doesn't WORK that way, the communication aspect of it was totally pointless and in my mind completely not worth thinking about, much less writing a paper about it... but the paper made up 10% of my grade, so I wrote a very good paper full of complete and total B.S. that got a 100%.

  • aspergers2mom

    @Springingtiger - that would be my son. Snaeky bugger he is...LOL

  • aspergers2mom

    @keystspf@xanga - I have to tell you, thinking that poltiics is BS has nothing to dowith yur aspergers. As a political science major in college BS was the subtitle of the major LOL. Glad you got a great grade.


    It's interesting that having to stay inside the box is what is necessary in order to one day have your "outside the box" thinking accepted. but you can't do one without having the other. Ironically it has always been those that think outside the box that effect real change in every walk of life.


    Good luck with your school. It sounds like you are really on your way.

  • keystspf@xanga

    @aspergers2mom - Oh, I know that thinking politics is BS has nothing to do with AS... :) But not being able to really get around the fact that no matter how many communication techniques a third party candidate were to use or how effectively they used them, it would not be enough to gain them the election. The electoral college is what makes the candidate, not the popular vote. (We found that out the hard way when GWB beat Al Gore.) The third party candidate would have to so thoroughly beat the Dem. and Rep. candidate that there could be no question in the electoral college as to who won the election. So, writing a paper about techniques that a third party candidate could use is completely and totally pointless. It isn't the public that necessarily has to be convinced. Major changes would have to be made in Congress FIRST... and that's not likely to happen. The last (and only) third party candidate to win an election was Abraham Lincoln... and Civil War ensued during his term and he himself was assasinated. The state of unrest and upheaval in the whole government is what allowed him to win the election... and begin the Democratic party to begin with. There was a shift taking place anyway.


    It's THAT, that has to do with the AS... the mental block against writing something totally pointless when I can "prove" how pointless it is. LOL

  • aspergers2mom

    @keystspf@xanga - but you got the "A" so you at least accomplished your goal. Right, no matter how pointless the paper. :) Goodluck hon. I think you are doing terrific.

  • keystspf@xanga

    @aspergers2mom - Yes, but when I was in highschool, I would not have been able to move past it like that. I'd have fussed and fumed over the assignment and done terribly with it. I'm now almost 32... so it's taken a bit of growing up to get to this point. So, sometimes it takes a bit longer to catch on that sometimes we just HAVE to play by "their" rules even when we don't want to or know that we know better.


    I have been slowly but surely putting the pieces together that "doing this now, makes what I want to do possible." I can't always do what I want to do by starting at the end and pulling it apart backward. I have to just play by the rules of time and sequential order. Some things are not going to make sense (to me) doing them now, but they will when I look back at them. I have assembled enough things without following the directions to learn that sometimes you HAVE to do this thing first or the whole thing won't work and you'll have to take it apart and go back and do it. It's taken a while, but now that it has clicked... things are moving much more easily. :)

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