Friday, 01 January 2010
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You don't have to be a Victim
My adult son, Brandon went out by himself to have some fun over the weekend. He ran into several adults who began to tease and bully him. He has a very hard time expressing himself, and he just stood there frozen and didn’t say a word.
They continued to tease him.
When he got home he called me and was terribly upset.
After we spoke for a brief period he began to realize that he had choices. He understood he didn’t have to be a victim. We talked about how he could take care of himself and what he could do if this ever happened again. I told him he had the right to move away from people who are annoying him, and he doesn’t have to just stand there and take it.
The stimulation from the bullies stunned him. He became powerless and motionless and couldn’t figure out to what to do next. I didn’t know this would be his reaction, and neither did he.
This is just another life lesson for Brandon while trying to live a peaceful, independent life and living with autism.
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- From: amaliastarr
- Name: Amalia Starr
- About Me: I am a mother to an autistic adult son, a motivational speaker, an independent living coach, and author of Raising Brandon. I specialize in supporting parents of children with autism and special needs through workshops, seminars, and private sessions. Utilizing a background in sales and marketing, I was the host of a cable show dedicated to parents who had children with special needs. My results-based approach focuses on empowering both parents and their children to reach their full potential. Starr's newly released book, Raising Brandon, is an autobiographical account of her struggle to raise her son in a world where autism was not understood. The book follows Starr's life from the birth of her youngest son, his diagnosis with autism, intractable epilepsy, severe learning disorders, and her goal to help him live his dream of independence. THERE IS HOPE! www.AmaliaStarrSpeakerAutism.com
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Comments (4)
It seems the life lessons for those living with autism, caring for them and 'running into' them never end. I'm glad you were able to work this through with your son. (Those people make me sick BTW).
@MiaHysteria - So true, Brandon is thirty-six, and the life lessons seem to never end. However, with each lesson he gains strength and gets a bit wiser. It's wonderful to watch him continue to grow and develop, and move ahead. He wants to get better, and it appears that nothing will stop him. I am his number one fan. May 2010 be a wonderful year for you and your family.
I had a similar problem when I was in high school. I pretty much "bullied myself" because of how I reacted to my peers' teasing... it took me a long time to gain a sense of sarcasm.
I'll admit that I have a similar problem still, at 25, when someone raises their voice; I kinda just stop and let them at it. I still tend to baffle myself like that.
Thanks for leaving your comment I really appreciate it. It's great to hear from others who have gone through and are going through similar situations as my thirty-six year old son. It really helps me to understand what my son has to deal with, and I am sure it will help others. Thanks again! @Moofey@hardestlevel -