Thursday, 10 December 2009
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Could My Mom Be The Source of my Aspergers?
Last night, I was skimming through some facts about those with Aspergers or those with autism, and being the concerned child I am today, I read some facts about those with autism that reminds me a lot of my mom. Through this, I tend to believe that my mom has some form of autism or learning and social disability herself...and in turn, I have the aspergers. Either that or I can trace exactly who I got this autism from. Let me explain.One of the diagnoses (sic) I have read from an article is "They may have to line up their pencils before they can pay attention, or they may say the same sentence again and again to calm themselves down." I don't know anything about the pencils part, but my mom does have a habit of talking to herself and repeating thing over and over again in her mind, whether she is crying or she if heated up...as if no one hears her. And this is from a woman who often thinks I'm crazy when I talk to myself.
Another thing the article said was "Some people with autism never learn how to talk." After reading more articles about my asperger's, they have been saying for a while that those with autism have trouble finding the right words to say things, have trouble explaining what is in their mind, or have a bit of trouble with being tact. Without question, that is my mom all the way.
Each of the few articles I read has a few facts that remind me a lot of her. Even one of them says people with that have "extremely repetitive, unusual, self-injurious, and aggressive behavior". Even if my mom gets severely stressed about it, she does work like cooking a big meal this Thanksgiving (because according to plenty of people in the family, if it isn't done her way, it isn't done right). In result of going through what seems like too much trouble, she and my Dad continuously bicker about Lord knows what.
I'm reading more stuff, but I have heard that sometimes, autism could be hereditary in some way. By that definition, I can't help but be convinced that my mom is the source of my level of autism.
What do you think? Should I up and question her about this?
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That's because pretty much everyone has those traits... I guess we all must have autism.
You spelled "diagnoses" right, so what is the sic for? It should be in square brackets anyway, and if you aren't quoting someone, you don't need to misspell something and put sic after it.
@black_lie@xanga - I didn't think I was using it right at the time.
The main thing is that she cooked the turkey enough and it tasted good and people at it.
@black_lie@xanga - you don't really need to be a bitch
@Duffsha05@xanga - Yeah, I don't, and I wasn't being one. I was confused as to why he so blatantly misused sic, so I asked, and I told him when it is supposed to be used. You don't really need to be so confrontational.
it's a possibility. we just spent 2 weeks in my psych class discussing autism/asbergers. they are not exactly sure why it happens, there are many theories. but they think that genetics definitely contribute. one of the things that they say helps autistic children and children with asbergers develop social/language skills is communication therapy. if your mom has asbergers chances are she does not have the best communication skills which would not help your situation very much.
(isn't it interesting that we say is "has asbergers" but "is autistic"?)
@bodyheartmindsoul@xanga - some people do say, "Has autism."
@mynameisblueskye@xanga - My mom and dad did a lot of the same things. My aunt is even "worse" with some of them. I do them, my brother does them. My son is the one who ended up with the diagnosis of HFA or Aspergers. So, yeah, it is possible that there is something hereditary there. My entire family is "off" it seems. None of us have ever really fit the social "norms". Thing is, how much of that is "learned behavior" or is it inheirant (I know I probably spelled that wrong, I hate spelling that word)?
Thing is, me and my son also have some sensory issues that are obviously not learned behavior. I can hear bats and electronics. Ticking clocks drive me up the wall. Clothes tickle constantly, I nearly always itch. Smells that nobody notices will make me nauseous. Flashing lights captivate me like I'm hypnotized. Music has the same effect if I let it. I live with an insane amount of self control. You can ask anyone I go to church with... I cannot sit still. I spend the entire time rocking. (I give up trying to hold still after a while, it's either that or pay attention, but not usually both.)
All my friends and family talk to themselves. A lot of people do. A lot of people also struggle with tact, it's usually societal not pathological. And I'll bet almost everyone knows someone who cooks a big Thanksgiving meal even though it's stressful and makes them bicker with other people. Those things alone are not enough to diagnose anyone with anything.
@black_lie@xanga - It had nothing to do with his post, and was not necessary, other than to find something to criticize. Maybe it would have come off less (although still bitchy) if you actually commented on what he said, and then gave your additional criticism.
I think you might want to ask her if she thinks she could use some help with her issues. Just explain that you love her and you want her to be happy and that's why you're asking. Accusing her of being the cause of your autism might make her feel like a bad parent
@Duffsha05@xanga - Sorry, I get hung up on mistakes this bad. They just bug me so much that it's all I can think about when I read a post, so of course that's what I would remark on. So, to me, it has to do with the post, and to me, it was necessary to ask him his motive why he did that, otherwise I would have no peace of mind.
If your mom is anything like my mom, it's quite possible, even probable. I blame my mom for a lot.
@black_lie@xanga - sic can refer to improper usage as well as to improper spelling. I think that perhaps the intent was to question the entire concept of diagnosing illness in the case of Asperger's (all of this is just part of the range of human behavior), but perhaps it was about the fact that lining up pencils is not a diagnosis. It is a sign or a symptom that might be used for a diagnosis, and not the diagnosis itself. In either case [sic] could be appropriately used to acknowledge inappropriate usage. It's not always about spelling.
'Neurotypical' practically means that people fit into the world and are able to have independent lives. It isn't a fixed point but somewhere on a sliding scale that also has autism and Asperger's on it. Some of these quirks and peculiarities are anti-social, or just plain weird, some are amusing and add to the personality, but all of them are part of why we are unique.
I used to think It was possible that I had Aspergers in the past. After all, I fit almost all of the characteristics, just like your mom does. After searching a little deeper, I figured out I had a dissociative disorder. Every characteristic of the disorder fit who I was, as opposed to most of the traits for Aspergers. Maybe it could be the same for your mom.
@theworldiswatchingyou@xanga - Where I was trying to go is that I was reading small details of what those who had Aspergers must have. There were small details I read that reminded me a lot of my parents, so I'm convinced that some of the stuff on the list might come straight from my mom. Another one is inability to understand people, which judging by the whole family is something she also has a teens bit of trouble on, too.
@badboyprofessor@xanga - I know that, but I always thought that you could only use [sic] in direct quotes. Otherwise, if it's not inside a quote, you could just change the word to reflect the correct usage or your own viewpoint.