Friday, 06 November 2009
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Better Ways To Defend Autism.
I've always tried to be on the mature side, yet sometimes I let my anger get the best out of me. I was outside with my brother (who is diagnosed with autism) and we were were siting on the back of the car, with the garage door open. My brother would make sounds going "eeeeeee" You know, the sounds that autistic kids make.
Okay, forgive me if I am too illiterate or naive to explain my brother's condition, but I am sure that it is not that hard to elaborate on. Anyways we were outside, my mom was inside cooking, and my brother, getting excited over bicycles (anything with wheels), would put his arms up and go "eeeeee". These black kids, that just moved on, middle schoolers, I believe, were staring at my brother. As I am use to these stares that people give to my brother, I chose to ignore it. as I was just leaning against the car thinking about how slow today is. My brother was staring at them because they had bicycles and skateboards that excites him.
Than this punk preteen (as Addie describe a preteen: someone who thinks they are a teenager,) was on his bike staring at my brother and mimicking him. he would lean on his bike and smile sadistically going "eeee" while his younger brother would encourage him to do so. I got really annoyed. I wanted to shout out "you mocking him?" but I kept my mouth shut. I had to. With all that was in me, i had to keep my mouth shut. My mom was less than 10 feet away from me (unaware of this whole thing cause she's cooking) and I did not want to disappoint her or make her mad.
So my brother, unaware of this guy cruel teasing, would go "eee" back, and showed friendly gestures and laugh,. The preteen, thinking this is amusing, chose to do it again. I mugged him (gave him a really dirty look) very coldly. He than did his "eeee" and proceeded to laugh at my brother's friendly reaction as if this is a joke.
I don't know about you, but I've grown very defensive towards my brother. And I don't know what can possibly be classified as lower than making fun of someone who is diagnosed with special needs in front of them, that is sickening. I was really angry. The guy is probably an 8th grader, maybe a 7th grader. Either way, it showed immaturity cruelty.
My immediate thought was to stare him down and going 'you mocking my brother? ' in a threatening tone and gesture,
however, whatever prevented me from doing that, I will never know.
Now, there is only one thing in my mind when I proceeded to go inside the room, cause I did not want to cause trouble was,
Wake up. 6am. collect eggs. egg house . go back in house. pretend it was nothing.
I want to do that. I do not care if they were mocking me, but if mocking someone with special needs is not wrong, than I honestly do not know what is.
So tell me, will it be wrong of me to egg their house?
Well, obviously it is wrong, and will always be wrong.
but it'll make me feel better to just know that they came home going "WTF" .
next time, however, they pull someting like that, I honestly do not know how to react.
maybe i will stare them down, maybe i will give them the bird, or maybe I will choose to walk away.
I can't elaborate or exaggerate how angry I am right now, needless to say, all that is rushing through my mind is 'vengeance'
however, I know that is not the answer to the problems. and I know better than to do something so immature because I can't face
the fact that this world is over populated with people with a black heart.
Maybe i'll calm down later
right now, I just want to think up sadistic ways to get my revenge.
thats how i defend autism :)
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I'm 37 and I still want to do stuff like that when I see people being dumb and cruel to my daughter. I don't know what the answer is to be honest, but please don't get yourself into trouble, it's not worth it. It would just cause more problems and your mom has enough to do already without worrying that you will go round doing stuff like that.
I DO understand, I have times when I want to shout and scream or give someone a good thump, but in the end, if I did that, it would just cause more problems for me, not the idiots who are trying to get attention by being dumb.
I'd like to point out that egging their house would likely have no effect on the kid in question, but rather his parents that would have no clue as to why you did it, but would have to clean it up and deal with any damages. I undersand the anger, but would encourage you to consider the source: an 11 or 12 year old with his own issues and insecurities and ignorance. Perhaps next time (sadly, it seems there's always a next time), do say something along the lines of, "Excuse me, he has Austism. Is there something funny about that to you?"
sometimes people don't know people have disabilities, especially with autism, a lot of times its hard to tell.
either way, the kid should have had an idea and didn't need to act the way he did.
you have every right to be mad, but I don't think egging his house would be the answer :\ especially if you didn't even want to say anything to the boy because your mom was there, imagine how your mom would feel if she found out you egged someone's house?
@filtered_sunlight@momaroo - @raspberryjade@xanga -
I already know that egging someone's house is wrong, that is why I chose to refrain myself from doing it. but when someone is being cruel to my brother, whom i grew overly protective over the years, my first thought is always a nasty thought.
I am well aware that revenge is not the answer and will not solve any problems.
@Duhiana@xanga - My point was that it wouldn't even be 'revenge' in this case, but inflicting clean-up duty on parents whom might've been just as appauled by their son's behavoir as you were, had they been there to see it...
@filtered_sunlight@momaroo - My mistake, I did not clearly read your response.I apologize & Yes I do agree, which is another reason why I am glad I did not do something so low and immature.
@P1AutismMom - hahaha :) you always find a way to cheer me up.
Sometimes i just wish i could've done something to them that would not create guilt in my heart.
My son is 3 years old with severe autism and can't talk at all. Most people aren't really aware of what the symptoms of autism are. They can't really seem to be able to differentiate autism and mental retardation, which is preposterous. My son was going to go to the local school to learn more, but they just looked at him like something was wrong with him. There is nothing wrong with my son. I decided to enroll him in the school in the next town over because a couple of his therapists that he regularly sees are also teachers there for children with disabilities. A lot of times I wanna say something to people who look at my son the wrong way but I just smile and continue with what I was doing! I think people who act that way towards autistic kids are ignorant and I don't pay any attention to them because they don't deserve it.
calm down. don't let it affect you. jackasses and idiots exist all around the world throughout all of history. if you get pissed off all the time and go on an emotional rampage of vengeance, nothing productive will get done. choose what is important to you and how to achieve it. if understanding is what you seek, how would you go about it. egging someone's house will not make anything better besides your ego. i learned this lesson a long time ago. maybe you already know it, i'm just telling you just in case.
@peoplhi@xanga - I know, and thank you for your reminder.
I understand your anger. I just find it interesting how you let us know that these kids were black. And before you go, "Well, I was just describing them because they were black," the fact that you pointed it out interests me more than anything. For example, if they were all blonde, I really doubt you would have gone out of your way to tell us that. I know this is completely off topic but I wonder if them being black added to your anger any. If that's why you so badly want to egg their house. Though, there is no point in asking such a question because I am sure you do not consisder yourself a racist and I'm sure you will deny such a thing even if it were true.
@Tanezia_Delight@xanga - I find it interesting how I had a feeling that I knew someone would mention that. Yes, I did mention they were black, but if they were asian, white, indian, i would mention that too. If i was black. would that part even matter?
Did i offend you? i clearly did not mean to.
Just like how someone would classify someone as Caucasian as "white." African American as 'Black'.
"I know this is completely off topic but I
wonder if them being black added to your anger any. If that's why you
so badly want to egg their house."
i think you clearly misunderstood my post. My post was because my brother was being mocked of. If it was anyone, black or white. I would still have that anger in my heart.
@Duhiana@xanga - I knew you would deny it. And I'm not offended a single bit. I just found it honestly interesting that you went you out of your way. And I really wish you wouldn't give the bs that "if they were Asian, white, Indian, I would have mentioned that too." I do not doubt that you would have mentioned it if they were Asian and Indian, but you wouldn't not have said "these white kids if the boys were white. And I really hope you won't try to argue that you would. I know American nature just a little to well to know that you wouldn't have.
And I'm not offended. Nor am I misunderstanding your post. Those boys making fun of your brother was wrong, disgusting, and outrageously deplorable. But, I feel that adding that they were black was (maybe subconsciously) placed there to enduce more anger. For example, you hear about a soldier killing a fellow soldier. You get angry. You think "what the hell is wrong with him?" But the moment it's let out that he's Muslim, you start thinking he's a terrorist. He shouldn't have even been allowed in the army. What were those generals thinking putting him on the front lines?
Studies have shown that when people hear of black people (or any minority that is associated with violence) has done something wrong, people get angrier than if they heard that the person was white.
You adding the fact that they were black is interesting to me becuase I live a world where race is still an issue, just a less talked about one. No one can call when a situation is racists because then we're extremists who look too deeply into things. Or maybe we're just not living in delusion. We're aware that racism is out there and when we see it, we will point it out.
@Tanezia_Delight@xanga - "i knew you would deny it"
So, are you saying that you believe that I am a racist? In all honestly, you can think whatever you like to think, however, I can assure you that I am not one. but lets put that aside and agree to disagree.
"but you wouldn't not have said "these white
kids if the boys were white. And I really hope you won't try to argue
that you would. I know American nature just a little to well to know
that you wouldn't have."
are you sure by that? You know american nature just a "little too well" , yet you do not know me as an individual at all. Clearly, you are judging me base on the stereotypes, or possibly by stats. I do not believe you know me as well as an individual, so you judge my feelings base on one post, and one description of someone, and that is classifying them as "black". I could easily have said "that white kid" if that person was white. But who am i to talk about what i would do?
"We're aware that racism is out there and when we see it, we will point it out. "
I am aware of racism. If i were black, and wrote this post, I highly doubt that you would comment on it about such things, but because I am a race but black, I am suddenly on the line of being racist. and Also, if i mention that the kid was white, indian, asian, mexican, I doubt you would comment on this either.
But we can just end our dilemma, or an argument (whatever you call it)
to agree to disagree.
Don't egg the house. doesn't send the right message. Egg the bikes.
@sploit@xanga - LOLOL! Why can't you be my conscience? haha (=
I've been laughed at on numerous occasions, even by family members, when I flap my hands like your brother does (although I don't make the sound, over the years, learned not to). My family will smile and say "That's where Brandon gets it from" or something similar as my youngest does the same thing I do, hand flapping and toe jumping. I don't toe jump anymore either LOL
The difference? They do it with affection for my afflictions. They understand. Those kids do not. You can't educate them either because they're coming from a place where they're not open to that but rather open to criticizing and making fun of. I get how that can frustrate you to no end.
I also get the protectiveness, too. And the anger that builds. I think you did a good job. Ignoring it really is the best answer. If you had said something then, it likely would have escalated and perhaps they would have come back to do it again on a different day because they got a reaction out of you. You'd reinforce their behavior. Ignoring it really is sometimes the best defense. If a person is staring with a confused look on their face, that's different. They're curious. That's the time to educate.
However, have fun planning evil and dubious acts of vegence all you want. As long as you don't act on them, you're cool! Also, you have your blog here with tons of readers who know where you're coming from!!
@Duhiana@xanga - Cute. No. I'm not accussing you of being racist. Just saying that if you were, it's not like you'd admit to it, so denying it is sort of pointless and loses meaning.
Also, you seem to be under the impression that I accussed you of purposely putting the word there (which may be hard to deny as you claimed you had a feeling someone would point it out). Putting the word there intentionally, in hopes to stir up more anger on an already sensative situaton that was going to generate anger no matter what the boys' race were, is racist. Whether you did it intentionally or not, while debatable, is not what I found interesting.
If you placed it there unintentionally or innocently, the result, as your subconscious already knew, would stir up more anger in the readers. What I find interesting is, assuming you didn't mean any harm putting the word there, somewhere in you, you knew what the result would be. I'm more interested in the fact that even if you didn't purposely put the word there, some part of you knew that people would get angrier hearing that the kids were black, or some minority in general, and not white.
@Tanezia_Delight@xanga - Did you even catch that there were people making fun of this girl's disabled brother or did that point totally get lost in your rage?
When I recommended this post to autisable and yes I did recommend it I had not even noticed the word "black" in the text mainly because I was focused on the entirety of the post and the hurt and sadness this young girl felt over the intentional ridicule of her little brother.
I would gather the majority of readers on this sight would not have honed in on 5 letters in an article had you not brought such Unwarranted and Unnecessary attention to it. .
@Tanezia_Delight@xanga - Jeez calm down hoe you think that everyones a racist cause they say someones color? Shes merely decribing someone dont be butthurt by it. Its like saying someone is tall or skinny nothing much so dont take it to the 3rd degree and american nature? You dont even come close to American nature hell thinking that people who give other people a color or a race just because they are describing them might make you racist as well. and look at the comments here who has been the angry one here? Only you are the one who takes this so seriously dont be such a dramatic priss just cause a word is causing you so much grief
@Tanezia_Delight@xanga - "Also, you seem to be under the impression that I accussed you of purposely putting the word there"
Did i, in any context, say that? It seems when you read my post, you saw the word "black" and everything around my post got blurry and that is the only word you can focus on. Because, I have noticed that you failed to mention my brother's condition, or the main point of my post. Instead, you like to use one term to bash on me.
"Putting the word there intentionally, in
hopes to stir up more anger on an already sensative situaton that was
going to generate anger no matter what the boys' race were, is racist."
Now, how do you figure that I put the word there just to stir up anger? Like i said, if it was a white or asian person, I would put 'white' or 'asian.' You seem to be avoiding my statement in my last response. I claimed that if i were black, none of this would matter, and if the kid was anything BUT black, it would not matter.
Now, you say that you are not offended, yet your continuous responses differs so. I do not know if you are overly sensitive, or you just like to bash on people's post for mentioning the word black.
However, you did mention that the world is aware of racism . If that was the case, there would atleast be another person, other than you, pointing out that I was oh so, "racist." but however, it seems you only care that i mentioned the word "black", while others care about my brother's condition.
I do not even understand what is your point in your continuous harassment. Are you trying to point fingers at me and say I am racist? If that is the case, say what you want to say and stop commenting on off topic bullshit. My post is about my autistic brother and the crap he goes through, while all you give a fuck about is the word "black". get over yourself. I am sure I am not the only person who describes a person by their race.
"some part of you knew that people would get
angrier hearing that the kids were black, or some minority in general,
and not white."
I had to laugh at that part. It is not like I carefully planned my post out. I just typed it out fresh from my mind when I went back to my house. It is not like i said, "Hmm.. maybe I'll put the word black there JUST so that people can feel my anger"
Maybe you can get through your thick head.
I was angry, if ANYONE, (of any color) treated my brother how he was treated.
but if you fail to acknowledge that, and if you just want to waste more of your time talking about off topic, and point fingers at me and CLAIM that I am racist just cause you got pathetic assumptions, than thats you.
However, other than the fact that I mentioned black in my post.
do you have any other facts that I am 'racist' ?
other than assumptions?
Do you think I post this blog on autism to hate on black people? Because you are getting there.
I post this blog on autism, because my friend wants me to post my teenage perspective on autism and how i react to how my brother gets treated. & also, MANY ADULTS can understand where I am getting at.
@heatherbabes - sometimes when i ignore it, it feels that I am too weak to defend my brother. I feel bad though, should I have said anything like, "excuse me?" . they seem to be in middle school, and I do not think they understand the term 'autism' yet.
@Tanezia_Delight@xanga - Oh look! There's a picture of a black person in your profile pic.
Oh, dear, was that racist?
Or just descriptive, like so:
Oh look! There's a picture of a white person in THIS profile pic! And a redhead in that one! And and upside down Asian in that one! Oh look, a cute cartoon cat, too.
Holy hell. Look at me. I'm racist, linear-ist, haircolor-ist AND cartoon-ist! I should just go stick in my head in a fish tank, because OBVIOUSLY we're all just supposed to pretend we are blind and deny our brains' natural tendencies to categorize what we see for what it IS.
Who cares whether or not the author was descriptive about the situation? That's not the point. The point is kids made fun of her brother and they happened to be black.
@xfemblem@xanga - I've not been angry at all in this post.
@Duhiana@xanga - I've yet to call you a racist. I understand 100% what you're blog is about. I was making a little note on something I picked up. I'm sorry if I offended you and made this post into something it wasn't. And I'm not just saying that. I truly am sorry.
Let me explain it this way, I am not calling you a racist at all. Just that using describing them as black when it has absolutely nothing to do with the story is offending. For example, you're brother being autistic is important to the story. The ignorance of those boys is the entire basis for your anger, which is completely justified. But let's say you weren't in the parking lot, but were on the second floor balcony (This is just a hypothetic situation), and the boy got really close and could easily touch your brother if he wanted to. In this situation, it might help the story if you explain that he was very tall, thus why he could reach you on the second floor. Or, if the boy approached you looked threatened and angered and it made you nervous. It would help to include that the boy was muscular and scary looking.
But when you describe them as black, it was almost like you were using that to explain why they were being ignorant. I AM NOT SAYING THAT THIS WAS YOUR INTENTION. Just that anyone who may be racist and reading this will think. "Of course, black people are all ignorant, so it's not a surprise they acted like that."
Maybe that way, you can see where I'm coming from. Ignorance towards your brother, who is autistic angers you. Ignorance towards my race angers me. I'm sure it was not your intention. But the same way you need to school people who don't understand autism, the same way I feel compelled to bring up stuff like this.