Sunday, 27 September 2009
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Autism Crush - Part 1
Autism Crush – Part 1
Yo! Mick here (pictured at the top of this blog with my boy). I'm a very handsome red-headed Queensland Heeler - a Canine if you will, and I'm here to tell you adventures about raising my brother, Red. Red lives with autism...
Red was in band camp again for the 2 weeks before school started. Red loves it! Last year he met a former student who assisted the freshman with getting their marching feet. Although he didn’t know it, Red developed a crush on her.
And I must say, she is a really great person – inside and out. She’s also a great musician and marcher and...
Well, I can totally understand why Red likes her.
Sadly, she eventually had to go off to college last year but because she has a brother still in school, she made trips back as frequently as possible. Red would just glow in happiness whenever she came around.
When there was a band event, Red would perk up a bit, pay extra attention to dressing up and the details of getting his hair just right on the off chance the object of his attention would make an appearance. He really tried hard to impress her. Even Red’s college choices seemed based upon being near her. He, of course, wanted to attend the same college!
Mum and his teachers at school would sometimes use Red’s interest as a carrot saying things like, “you know, to get into college you have to do your homework”, or whatever.
This graduated band member has been a great motivator. Kids with autism tend to need great motivators and teachers and mums know how to get creative in using them.
All during band camp this summer Red went in the hopes of seeing her. And when she came, Red lit up like a pup with a mouth full of double cheeseburger with bacon.
On the very last day of camp the band kids perform what they have learned for their parents. This is followed by an invitation for the family members to join the students on the field and to keep up with them as they march (without the instruments for safety reasons).
Let me tell you, it’s a lot harder than it looks!!!
Red was so busy keeping his eyes on the object of his crush he just about pulled Mum into the tubas.
The moment the music ended he was off to hook up with her and sit at the same table. He even ate pizza to impress her and Red does not eat pizza typically (except at his dad’s but that’s a different story)
(To be continued in The Crush Part 2)
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- From: irenecarroll
- Name: Mick c/o Irene
- About Me: Yo! Mick Here! Hello and Welcome to this site about my boy, Red, and me. I'm the hottie with the canine smile. Yup. I'm the dog brother. Red has autism. He's not always been "red" but he's probably always had the potential for autism. I'll share some of my perspectives about living with autism, Mum (Irene) will join in with some of Red's history, Red will add some thoughts and ideas and we'll publish a lot of information about autism, some tried and true tactics that have helped Red (and us!), and resource links.
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Comments (16)
awwee :)
I can't wait to hear the rest of the story! :)
:) that is lovely
Love your stories Mick! looking forward to Part 2 and hopefully a happy ending!
It is very nice for the girl, that she has a little fan club there, and it is very nice for the boy that he can play a musical instrument and meet girls this way. Also to act as a reinforcer with things like brushing teeth and flossing and wearing your retainer and going to the dentist, showering every day and wearing clean clothes and NOT wearing your pizza or other foods, and I think he's getting near the age when he'll have to start shaving his peach fuzz more often eh?
10 years from now, the age difference between the student teacher and the student won't be as noticeable but she may have other men in her life and this is where we teach the value that a REAL man does NOT turn jealous and learns to SHARE!!!!!!!! I sure hope my boys leave home knowing about this although the way that their mom waits on them hand and foot I think they have some very high expectations of anybody who wants to be part of their life. So be it...
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this is adorable. (:
cutee
awwe! my cousin has autism. it's not a mild case, but it's not very severe either. he'll let you know when he wants something and he usually won't talk to you unless you talk to him first. I don't even think he understands that he's different. Jack. I love him dearly.
He has a twin brother, Joey, who does not have any disability. When the two of the were being born, Joey was in the back and Jack was getting ready to be on his way out, and Joey was having a hard time getting there. So Jack moved behind him and forced him out. Of course, he couldn't have known that he saved Joey's life. But I do consider him an angel. He musn't have known that he was sacrificing something to get his brother out, but he did.
I wouldn't really call it a sacrifice though because he's just so wounderful I just wouldn't want him any other way.
Your story is adorable. I can't wait to see Part 2.
I hope this ends well, please do not post a sad ending.
Yeah! This also applies if she turns out to be lesbian and has a woman in her life
Anyway, I hope this crush ends well instead of turning out like this other crush (non-autistic, BTW) did: http://divalion.livejournal.com/163615.html
"...One of the guys [among her friends] was someone I was close enough to, to consider one of my best friends. Another of the guys, the most recent addition to the group who was very quiet and who I probably knew the least (and knew me the least)-- in fact we didn't know each other well at all-- decided he had a huge crush on me. This did not prompt him to, say, talk to me more or anything, so I remained blissfully ignorant until I slowly began to piece together the cryptic comments, weird behavior, and snickers of those guy friends whenever I was around. I might have been trying to date someone else at the time, I can't recall, but either way I just wasn't interested romantically in this particular guy so I tried to ignore the signs and act like everything was normal. Eventually the other guys decided it was time to confront me with it and ask if I was going to go out with him, and the social pressure mounted, from them as well as a few female friends. Since there was no longer any chance of just ignoring the situation, I had to tell the guy that most awful of things, that I liked him well enough but "not that way".
"I knew he would be hurt and feel rejected by that, and having been overlooked myself in the past I felt bad about it and tried to at least be gentle, figuring that was that, and he'd get over it. What I was not quite prepared for was that the entire group of guys-- including the one who liked me-- would be furious at me for it and promptly stop talking to me. I don't remember exactly how long the snit lasted, but it was quite a while before they would deign to talk to me again, and even then things were never quite the same.
"I'm telling this not because I feel particularly scarred by it still but because it has some of the classic hallmarks of the Nice Guy experience, which I KNOW some of my chick friends reading this will be able to relate to only too well:
"1) He fell "totally in love" with me, as it was relayed to me, without having really gotten to know me at all and based mostly on surface attraction. (And although the romantic in me likes to believe that "love at first sight" is possible, the true manifestation of that phenomenon is a *mutual* one IMO, and in any case it is quite reasonable to remind oneself that there is a difference between a swift and powerful attraction and actual love, and that one might wish to take some time to explore whether there is a point of convergence there before proceeding.)
"2) The assumption was made, by all the guys including him, that because he was a Nice Guy, I was obligated to place that above any of his other qualities and to date him for it, regardless of whether or not we were otherwise compatible.
"3) My feelings or desires did not seem to matter nor enter into the equation; he liked me, ergo, I must go out with him-- because who in her right mind would pass up a chance to date such a Nice Guy?
"4) When his feelings were not returned, even with a rejection delivered as gently as possible out of consideration for those feelings, he and the other guys turned on me. All my good stuff turned to bad stuff and I was to be reviled..."
That is, I hope that even if she doesn't like him that way his friends and family don't revile her for it.
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That's so cute! And I agree with the commenter above. Please do not post a sad ending.
Awuhhh! Crushes in any sense are adorable, though. I love how it's at band camp, because band is beeeeeasst.