Tuesday, 07 July 2009
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QOTD: How would you deal with this?
I have Asperger's and yesterday my cousin and I got into a huge fight. Well she was saying some hateful things about me having autism...such as "Well ur b****iness is the autism coming out of you" and offensive stuff like that and now shes going around telling everybody that I have it when it is no one's business and it most certainly ain't any of hers and now every time she gets mad at me..she uses that against me. Have any of you been in a situation like this? And if so, how did you deal with it?
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- From: emileerene76@xanga
- Name: Emilee
- About Me: I am 17 years old. I am a major tomboy. I love to hunt, fish, snowmobile, dirt-bike and go mudding. Anything that involves the outdoors, I absolutely love. Anything that is considered girly does NOT catch my interest.Country is my favorite kind of music..its all I listen to. I am a redneck. I would love to meet that one guy who loves me just for who I am. I am a very independent person and I don't need to be in a relationship all the time. I am not a mean person. I absolutely hate drama.
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I have dealt with that, on numerous occasions. When it's family it's harder to deal with because they are in your life whether you want them there or not. However, I just refuse to talk to/about that person again. If it only happens once, or we talk it out, that's one thing. But if I told him or her it bothers me and they continue to do it, I ignore it and them. Once they don't get the rise out of you that they'd hope to, they usually stop. Of course, first they get worse trying to get you to respond, but eventually they give up.
Or you could cease to care about what they say. So what if the world knows, so what if they judge. You will know who you can trust and not trust when all the bad is out in the open. That is of course if you have any bad to be out, and what is baadness but a point of view?
I get in fights all the time with my brother. My problem is I have a hard time arguing with people, I can't make the thoughts come out right and I end up crying and then my brother thinks I'm weak and antagonizes me for crying. I have a hard time ending the argument and usually result to harming myself in frustration. I don't argue well with anyone, I don't really know how to. I try to just ignore what he says because he's a drug addict and instigates fights out of boredom and cruelty, cuz he knows I'm not a good arguer.
@LibranPoetess@xanga - well it bothers me when they say those words but im getting better at just ignoring whatever they say and just blow it off my shoulder...in fact usually i run my mouth back..but its not always a good idea cuz that just makes what they say worse..and sometimes, i too have a hard time making my thoughts come out right..but its no biggies...us people who have this disorder are probably a lot more intelligent then those people who try to degrade us!!
@emileerene76@xanga - Yeah, it's true. I've always been called a retard by my brother, and worse but he's a druggy and I have a job so I think I'm doing better than him and should know better than to listen to what he says. I still listen and it still hurts, probably because he's family.
@LibranPoetess@xanga - it will hurt especially coming from your own family..but let me tell you one thing i don't really know you but one things for sure:YOU ARE NOT A RETARD!!! You are not even close!! In fact..I don't even consider our disorder a disorder. I consider it a gift seems how people like us usually have a better intelligence level.
@emileerene76@xanga - EXACTLY!!!!
I always thought of it as a personality type. Some people are introverts, some people are extroverts, some people are autistic. It's just how I am...
I don't know how I would handle this; but I do know that I am glad I have read so much about many exceptional people and theri childhood. I rather think many of them would have some label. maybe asbergers. Einstein could never tie his shoes nor make change. Edison was kicked out of school for being irrational. many many people did not "fit" And I say, Thanks to God!
sorry you go through this. I am glad to see the post, and the support you get. I hope you can wear this around your shoulders like a rainbow. There are many who DO understand heart. She is a very ignorant person, and i feel sorry for such. all my best
@LibranPoetess@xanga - basically that's all it is. Some people are bipolar, some people are shizophrenic and some are autistic. It doesnt mean anythings wrong with them...its just how they are.
I'd say don't talk to them anymore. If they're going to do things like that to you because they're upset, they don't deserve to be a part of your life. Cut them out of it, and teach them a lesson. They should respect you enough not to go around saying things like that, and obviously they don't. You don't deserve that and shouldn't have to deal with it.
@babykittytara@xanga - thats the best way to do it. and i've been doing just that and its killing her but she still don't understand that words hurt and that she cant go around saying that kind of stuff and expect to get away with it cause it just isn't going to happen..the less i talk to her the sorrier she becomes. People like that need a dose of their own medicine
@emileerene76@xanga - Indeed!!! ...But we are way cool
Definitely!! and we know a lot more stuff then those trash-talking people will ever be!! That makes us even cooler!! And we're better then they are cause we are exactly like them!!!! :D
@LibranPoetess@xanga -Definitely!! and we know a lot more stuff then those trash-talking people will ever be!! That makes us even cooler!! And we're better then they are cause we are exactly like them!!!! :D
Keep taking the high road, if your she wants to be cruel keep your head high and ignore it because eventually she will stop, and if she cares about you she will feel sorry for the way she treated you. Getting you angry and upset is probably precisely what she wants.
But... forgiveness is the most glorious revenge.
i hope things get better.
@emileerene76@xanga - And so what if I have a massive collection of rubber duckies and stuffed piggies and I can quote most of the movies I have in my collection word for word. It's part of my charm
@LibranPoetess@xanga, @emileerene76@xanga -  - I would hardly say people with schizophrenia are 'just fine' or a 'different personality type'.  Have you ever met anyone with a serious metal illness such as bipolar disorder or schizophrenia?  It is not fine.
It's great that so many with autism do just fine in the world, but remember some don't, some can't even speak. Â It's great that you seem to have a pretty decent run in life, but don't say that being bipolar is just different, it's dangerous and most dangerous to the people who suffer from it.Oftentimes they spend most of their life in jail, lucky ones have family who will take care of them but still suffer dramatically and unfortunately many die at their own hands.
I wouldn't put those other diseases along with autism, they are very different.
p.s. really don't worry what others say/think about you. Â You can't spend your whole life being someone else so others will like you. Â Be respectful, but don't bend over backwards to make others happy that is no way to live
oh, and I see you are from Vermont, I love Vermont so beautiful...
Consider yourself out of the closet and take pride in who you are. Remember your Autism doesn't define you either. You are so many other things. It is one aspect of yourself. Celebrate because you are now seen in the light of day. Those who judge you aren't worth your time. Now you can talk about your "disorder" (gift) and share your experiences as an autistic person with those who are interested. Now that's cool.
@Eldheler@xanga - Thank you. I am bipolar and suffer greatly at times. I appreciated your comment. I do also think the author of this blog is high functioning enough and should celebrate her gift. I see high functioning autism differently than bipolar and schizophrenia. They still have there challenges, but their intellegence level IS such a gift. Thanks for the share =)
@Eldheler@xanga - Yeah I was hardly saying that, I was referring to autism. But I have known people with both schizophrenia and bipolar disorder and they seemed fine to me. I'm not stupid ya know, I know that what is presented in front of me and what is kept behind closed doors is different. Maybe it is a personality type, who knows, I don't judge, I prefer to accept a person for who they are and not make a big fuss about their disabilities or disorders.
@LibranPoetess@xanga - heck yes!! Hell I still keep a blanket that I've had since I was a baby!! We are special in our own way and should be proud of it and not let people tell us whats acceptable in todays society and what isn't
@DepressedSkinnyMissS@xanga - you know....there is nothing wrong with bipolar. its who you are and I know lots of people with bipolar and they do struggle with some issues as do I and it shouldn't matter if you are bipolar or autistic, we are all the same in terms of, we bleed like "normal" people do and we love the same way they do..so I really don't think bipolar is a bad thing!! And I admire bipolar people for some of the personality characteristics...like speaking their mind. I had a friend who is bipolar and wasn't afraid to tell anyone off and I loved that about her!!!
@emileerene76@xanga - I used to have a pillow that I had a hard time parting with. Them one day, it was gone. I know my parents still have it somewhere.